erience this sort of thing; if misdip is resumed, but otherwise the reality has for ever gone. husband separates female friends, wense ends. We appeal to all our

ees is not as true as sad. 'You sot suit my wife, &c.' Oh Damon! sent your bridal gift and your convar hat and retire. You speak of her 1, is it so ?' 'No,' replies Ellesmere,

-married.'

a man gets a bad wife it is competent for Promos & sound and console him; but by a certain arndomss or generosity which makes women they seldom avail themselves of any such Insulted, ill-used, and neglected, they do year make de tobacco or clubs, but they have been known gaiety, in suicide, in good works, but most ise and in prayer.

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dowever thorough and excessive, is hardly ever Arupture in friendships between characters of a . ad tauhtal cast. This observation experience justifies hority corroborates. The finer the nature the the tendency, when deprived of any valid reason for towards an absolute and general submission.' 'What ey to him, what is she to any of us? We make a great x about her, and erect statues to her, and prate about her Song the air we breathe-if we have it not we die, but we

de, and we don't really care a pin about our liberty. 1154 we like is a despotism-an iron despotism that we have sed up for ourselves, and we elect to grovel under it and gamble at it, and hug our chains tighter and tighter the White One of those dicta was written by a man, and the erher by a woman, and we leave our readers to detect the Masculine or feminine ring in which they will.

Pospority and adversity are commonly supposed to be Berilo sources of estrangement, and the onus is in such cases almost invariably laid on the fortunate man's shoulders; but in hasty conclusions of this kind there is often much injustice. , apart from our own experience, we investigate such stancos as come within our own observation, we shall see that twice out of three times the fault lies on the other side. There is much kindness and indulgence shown towards misfortune in the world, though it is the fashion in books to atliem the contrary; moreover, it is more easy for the pulont and fortunate to be forbearing, generous, and

cordial,

cordial, than for those who have toiled and failed, whose venture has been wrecked, and who have, so to speak, been made to bite the dust. Prosperity develops all that is unworthy and sordid in a low and unrefined nature, and it is the beggar who goes to the devil when he is set on horseback. But our remarks have reference only to those whose minds are of a certain elevation and nobleness, and with this limitation we affirm that success gives fresh vigour and energy to all good qualities, but adversity is a most severe and crucial test of temper. If some great and continuous good fortune creates any excessive and painful contrast of position and circumstances between men who have been friends, and there lies hidden in the character of the less prosperous person but one spark of envy or churlishness, one atom of vanity or selfishness, if there is the shadow of want of trust in his friend or trust in himself, these things are sure to appear in all their repulsiveness, and stand between him and his better self. He will be cold in his congratulations, or bitter in his comments, harping on his own misfortunes, or striving to diminish the merits of the other man. He will grudge in his heart, and be cold and haughty, and resentful of kindness, as he never was in better times, or he will wear an injured air, and be ostentatiously humble-se poser en victime in short-than which there is nothing more aggravating to behold. It is as well to own at once that such a position is a difficult one to both parties. Nothing but genuine humility or good self-assurance will save the less fortunate man from betraying this foolish touchiness, and nothing but immense tact, and an earnest, sincere, and persistent cordiality from the other side will overcome it if it once appears. But all this it is worth while to try. "The days will soon be over, and the minutes are of gold.' Alas! if we knew, if we only knew, how in the shadow of after years, when the blood runs frostily in the veins, and friends are few, and the energy to make new ones has departed from us, we may miss from our side the one whom perhaps of all others we loved the best, and remember too late the resentful acquiescence, and the little sympathy and generosity we felt in his success on the one hand, and, on the other, our stinted tenderness and small patience to the downcast and wounded in spirit, we should cast away our own supineness and indifference and strive, while yet there is time, and with our best strength, to save the stranding bark of friendship.

If it be said that we take an extreme view of the rights, the duties, and the privileges of a friend, or that we overestimate the value attached to the possession of one, it must

be

be remembered that there is about friendship this peculiarity, and even superiority, as distinguished from all other ties whatsyrer is ontracted voluntarily, and by free selection; Where Is of blood and relationship, a man has no choice, and page a day mo maage through the force of

& MALIT too of self-defence, the part I be much better my jgad in ming their æ bens à baht of penerus arping and

or womed att bemutatky

TN Must serin the best Čest ferences, for iset vil he starr, and the Tanis me and w be comLead Temansance, argument,

vedení, and ever refreshing, who wants to bend the iron This, he who wishes to handle

& pe sor of Smach, it may be he her, dong ip that he do it no more. Anh đi đi xx said it, and if

But admonishing is not w matherana, which the Hindoos hack Bildad the Shuhite kens and onght to be, a legitiRaycasionally happens that in a sw the thing imputed to him, Đan sa 1 x a case the admonition ja kabi on of that restiveness which is ***mą), png RAZtimes the signal, of a final

lux game did that female friendship is equally losing exches of men, but that, these relations wwwsved, women are unable to resist the sealing to the world those defects and led evener friends with which intimate confiAut med dusts, soquainted. It is probable that some And may have come under Miss Muloch's immeWall her opportunities for lamenting over have been less frequent, and perhaps comVegy muted in kind; but we foar that what is more than Pod of any particular woman, is no less than osed of men in general. I do not know man,' w To Mariew but I know mon, and they are horribly com solkom noved wait for the written life of a man bar Ax wees, or what are supposed to be

such,

such, if you know his intimate friends, or meet him in company with them,' is the conclusion of the author of Friends in Council.'

Incendere quod adoraveram-' Is it for dis I painted you in stripes, and stuck a feather in your tail?' demanded the angry negro before he finally devoted his disobedient fetish to the flames. All history teems with such sentences as these: 'From having been his warmest friend he became his bitterest foe.' After their quarrel these two men, formerly so. attached, became distinguished for their mutual and implacable enmity.' So true it is that the delirium of the convert is duly equalled by the vindictive animosity of a former idolater. As civil war is more cruel than any ordinary war, so are the feuds of parted friends more unappeasable than any other kind of feud. There is about these the sense of keen, personal animus not only felt but displayed. The unrestrained confidence of close attachment has made each combatant well aware of the weak points, and with a cruel instinct guides his sword to the tender or unprotected place. In this there is unquestionably a certain ungenerosity almost amounting to treachery; and, if it were fairly set forth to the contending parties, few but the very base would willingly act in this fashion; but the temptation is great, and yielded to almost unconsciously; indeed, only very lofty natures are capable of ruling their thoughts, and shaping their words and deeds wholly uninfluenced by previous knowledge and wounded affections.

Sometimes the rupture is unequal, and the friendship fails on one side only, and no amount of heart-yearning, no earnest endeavour, no pleading as tender and importunate as woman's prayer, can draw together the silver cords so loosened, or warm that death into life. Then comes the doubt, not of loving, but of being loved, when it is felt that anxiety and selfdenial are so carelessly regarded, the loving sacrifice so little considered, tenderness so negligently handled, patience so hardly strained, mortifications so needlessly inflicted; and thus it comes to pass that the heart is consumed on the altar without even so much ceremony as the saying of a mass over the offering. Sometimes, indeed, we have seen these victims persist in repenting and reproaching themselves, though for no transgression, in the futile hope of wringing an avowal of regret, a demand for pardon, nay, even the shadow of an entreaty for forgiveness. Bootless effort! O hook so vainly baited! And then the bitter memory of that unavailing concession of right to wrong is stored up to shrivel the fading flower of affection, and the fire of it passes over the dim red

embers

embers of expiring friendship, causing them to assume the pallor of ashes. Gone! irrevocably gone! A divorce is pronounced as final as ever was decreed by man-an interdict as heavy and potent as ever was uttered by Pontiff. Then bury your dead, and make no moan for him. A friendship resuscitated after this is about as likely to live as a galvanised corpse.

A hopeless estrangement, arising from a collision on first principles, sometimes divides very true and loyal friends. Some momentous question is at issue, or a crisis occurs in which it is necessary to act as well as think, and the effect of this is to bring to light a radical difference of opinion respecting the way certain things are to be regarded or dealt with. One man will cling to faith, the other will hold to reason; one will dream of loyalty to a dynasty, the other of patriotism to his country; one will uphold the cause of order, the other has espoused the cause of liberty. A grave cause of difference is not unfrequently the devotion of the one to some particular doctrine, which the other is unable even to discuss with equanimity; or, again, the exhibition of great severity or great indulgence towards particular sins or sinners. Reasons of this kind have separated, and will separate, many noble hearts. The division is complete and lasting the healing not in their lifetime. Yet the actual existence and presence of personal esteem and attachment is still felt, though not seen; as it has wrought, it still does work. In proportion to the freedom with which it sprang up is its hardness in dying out. It lives even in shadow and sorrow after the wrench of separation, when meeting more in this life, and hope of it, except as enrolled in opposing armies, and marching under different banners, is over for evermore.

We will conclude with a passage ad rem from the writings of one who has in his time suffered perhaps more severely from such causes than it has fallen to the lot of any living man to do:

:

'It was a weary time, that long suspense when with aching hearts we stood on the brink of a change; and it was like death to witness and to undergo when first one and then the other disappeared from the eyes of their fellow; and then friends stood on different sides of a gulf, and for years knew nothing of each other or their welfare; and then they fancied of each other the thing that was not, and there were misunderstandings and jealousies, and each saw each other as his ghost only in imagination and in memory; and all was suspense and anxiety, and hope delayed, and ill-requited care. now it is all over, the morning is come, the separate shall

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